What it Means to be: Spoken For

Happy New Year Beauts!

Thank you for reading my posts and sharing them! It encourages me to know that my content is being read and blessing others! Which is truly the purpose as to why I started this blog in the first place! My hopes is that LifeisaBeaut continues to shed some light in your walk with Christ 🙂

This marks the first blog series I will undertake. I welcome you to read through this series with a prayerful and humble heart, as there will be questions to reflect on at the end of each post. The intention is to get you, my followers and readers, to embrace who you are and whose you are, as well as to say yes to the BEST love story of your life, as I did.

On November 1, 2017, I had purchased the book, Spoken For by Robin Jones Gunn and Alyssa Joy Bethke. If you get excited about reading, like me, you know what being indecisive with choosing the “perfect book” is like. By the time you choose THE book, an hour or more later you end up choosing the FIRST book you were eying before the other titles pulled you in.

That aside, I believe this book had truly enriched my faith. By that I mean I’ve learned to embrace my identity in myself, how I relate to others, and accepting God’s invitation to be His bride (yes guys, you too).

We all want to be loved. We want to be wanted. We yearn to be pursued by the man we’ve been praying for (for my fellas, pursue the woman you want to love unconditionally). We want to know that we’re valued enough to be worthy of love. Well here’s the good news, you are all of those things, and MORE!

Leslie Ludy of the SetApartGirl podcasts says,

“If you keep your hand on the pen to script your own story, you hinder the ability for God to write your story in His own time and his own way.”

For most of my life, I’d wanted to take control of many things in my life: what school I’d go to, what program I’d study, my career path, my where I’d live, my relationships, what I’d eat, etc. But I have learned that 50% of what I have in my life is controlled by genetics, while the other 50% is made up of 10% circumstances beyond our control (where I live, my income, and lifestyle), while the other 40% makes up decisions within my control (where I will live, what I will eat, who I will hang out with) – David Patchell-Evans of Goodlife Fitness Canada, (2015). However, since the book Everything That Remains by Joshua and Nick, I decided I would start living my life more intentionally – with the purpose of making a difference in others’ lives, by encouraging, reminding others of their worth, and just inspiring them to live life with an open hand; focussing less on what I can own, achieve, and look like, and zoning in more on what I learn through God’s word, my mentors, and sharing life lessons with others.

Reflecting on Spoken For, I learn that I am spoken for and am spoken to. In times that I cannot seem to utter words in my prayers, I am promised that:

“…the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.” Romans 8:26

When my heart yearns for answers to my doubts and fears, when I’m unsure of what I should be hoping for when it comes to my career plans, down to what I should eat, the Holy Spirit finds His way to intercede on my behalf.

I am reassured I am spoken for when my friends and family pray with and for me; when they speak words of life through God’s word.

I believe there are specific people placed in your life for a reason – to be in community and to commune with, (to “do” life with). You’re not meant to walk this journey of life alone, and I pray that you embrace those that care about you the most.

Proverbs 15:22 says,

“Plans fail for a lack of counsel, but with many advisors they succeed.”

My family was at a winter retreat last weekend, our first in over 10 years. Along our nature hike, there was a rope activity that portrayed the Christian journey so clearly:

There was a tree trunk with two wires branching off of it. The wires were meant for two people to try to get across to separate tree trunks a distance away. The object was to get across without losing balance, with your partner. Shoutout to my brother and Fritz for being in this photo, and actually being the only pair to have made it across, successfully.


There’s so much that this photo can say, but this is what I want you to take away from it:

The journey of faith, is not meant to be taken alone. While it does start off with an individual choice to get on the wire, the journey with Christ includes object lessons of trust, honesty, faith, and hope that you will make it across successfully! That love you long for is found when you truly embrace who you are and whose you are.

“A relentless Lover is pursuing you, and He has made His intentions clear. He wants you to be His forever. How will you respond to the One who longs for you to be His with your whole heart?” – Robin Jones Gunn and Alyssa Joy Bethke

That’s all for now Beauts! Get ready for a journey through the book, Spoken For. Let’s walk together as we uncover our identity in none other than our Father, God.


  • What comes to mind when you hear the words, “you are spoken for”?
  • Where are you placing your value? Your worth? Your time?
  • When others hear your name, how would they describe you?

-LifeisaBeaut ❤

2 thoughts on “What it Means to be: Spoken For

  1. As always, I am blessed to read your reflections. Love everything here particularly the quotes and verses mentioned. Keep it going, Ash! You are a channel of blessings to others.


    1. Hi Ate Zola!

      I’m so encouraged to know that you are being blessed by my posts 🙂 Your prayers and love are much appreciated! I hope you stay tuned for more!

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